Mistress Matisse's Journal

So, I've kind of been lying around the house like a lazy cat all day, because I was out til 4am last night after performing at Club Medusa...I had beautiful victims in Jae, Jane Duvall and another lovely girl, and my friend Malixe got some pictures of us. It's all just slap and tickle, really, but the crowd seems to enjoy it. The show went okay, til I was doing the 3rd and final set with Jae, and a security guy jumped up onstage and said, "Stop, stop, the Liquor Board is here!"
Whoops...See, it's a violation of a liquor license to do stuff like "flagellation" in a bar. (That means no flogging or spanking, among other things – and if you'd like to know what else you can't do in a bar in Washington, go here.)
So that was the end of that, which was actually fine with me. I got dressed and went to breakfast with Max and Jae and a handful of folks at Minnie's, and came home and crashed. Really, the older I get, the less I like noisy smoky bars full of stupid drunk people. I'm such a curmudgeon.
Tonight my sweetie is out to dinner with a buddy, and I'm home being blissfully quiet and alone. Mmmnnnn….

Wow, I've been so swamped since the last entry...but then, that's a more or less permanent state of affairs with me.

What have I been up to? Well, I've seen several clients, finished and sent in my weekly column, had a lovely, lovely date with my secondary partner, Mike, (more on secondary partners in a minute) came home and crashed (this was Tuesday night) got up Wednesday, saw another client, worked out at Gold's, hung out a little with my best friend, and hooked up with my partner Max for dinner before coming home to...write this journal entry.

To the bi girls: no news yet, I haven't had a minute to call TIB. But I'll figure something out...stay tuned.

So, about those secondary partners: did I mention I was polyamorous? If you don't know what that means, here are some websites that define it clearly...

alt.polyamory ....

The Poly Column

I live with my *primary* partner, Max, who I adore. My relationship with him looks pretty much like any committed live-in thang. But, in addition to him, I also have three *secondary* partners - two women and one guy. Keeps me busy!
Max also has a secondary partner, a woman.
We don't do triads - we tried it once, it did not go well, and frankly, I think it's the most difficult poly configuration to sustain. (If you're reading this and you're in a successful poly triad, kudos to you!) So our time with our secondaries is separate from our time together. And in my case, all three of my partners are separate from each other.

Max and I have different styles of being poly. For example, I have more partners but I spend less time with each of them on a week-to-week basis. Max prefers to have one pretty steady secondary, although he will play (by which I mean, do BDSM but not sex) with any number of people on a casual, one-shot basis.

Okay - this is a tired, going-to-bed girl.....

Damn...talked to The Stranger and they don't want to sponsor any more events til May. Bummer.

Okay - Plan B: Talk to Toys In Babeland and see if they're interested in doing something sooner, because I'm getting lots of plaintive little "when is the party?" emails from the original respondents.

I do understand their eagerness, but I had no idea I'd get so many responses! I thought I'd get, oh, a dozen or so, and I'd vet them a little and them just add them on to a smallish cocktail party at my house.
But I'm not about inviting close to one hundred strangers into my home, no way. (Let alone footing the bill for such a party.)

So, I'm trying to get some corporate cash to pay for a private room and some cocktail nibbles at some queer-friendly bar/restaraunt. (People can buy their own drinks!)
Let's see how I do with the second pitch.

Ah, Caffeine...
I am something of an anomaly in this bean-obsessed town, because I rarely drink coffee - a mocha occasionally.
No, when I wake up, I reach for...diet Mountain Dew. The highest caffeine content, yay!

And I need to finish at least one can before I try to talk sensibly to anyone except my nearest and dearest. Right now I'm waiting for my brain to fully engage before I call The Stranger. I'm trying to put together a largeish party inspired by the huge response I got to
this particular column about bi women.

I got no less than seventy emails about it and they're still trickling in. So hopefully I can get a little corporate sponsorship here, cross your fingers for me.

Busy Girl...

I'm tired tonight - I had a busy day, first dealing with lots of daily-daily life stuff (the car needs an oil change, FedEx off this package, make appointments for X, Y and Z).

And then I had a three hour session with a client - with dinner afterwards. I very, very rarely go out to dinner (or anything else) with clients. I know other sex workers who do this all the time, but usually I'm just not that comfortable with it.

But this particular client books a lot of time with me, and that counts for something. And he's also an intelligent and pleasant person generally. So while I wouldn't want to make a habit of it, dinner was very nice.

It's looking like a busy week - I've already got just about all of my available client-time booked up through Friday, and Friday night I'm doing a show at Club Medusa. So I'm guessing by Saturday I'll be pretty wiped out.

I just yawned an enormous yawn...so I think I'll go to bed, right now...

Please allow me to introduce myself, I'm a (wo)man of wealth and taste...

Okay, now that the Rolling Stones flashback is over....Let me really introduce myself: My name is Mistress Matisse.

I live in Seattle, where I have the pleasure to be - among many other things - a sex columnist for Seattle's coolest alt-weekly, The Stranger.My column is called "Control Tower", and you can read it here.
I decided to start blogging for two reasons: I'd like a place to kick around ideas for future columns, and because I'd like a place to talk about local events in the sex-positive community. I'm hoping it'll also be a way for some of my friends to keep up with what I'm up to, since I'm way busy all the time and am thus not always so fast with my email correspondence...
So here we go...