Mistress Matisse

Two important points before you read this. One: in this blog post, I make some sweeping, gender-based generalizations, and I make them in a ...

The latest Stranger column, about unproductive behaviors that certain types of male/female couples fall into, when seeking a woman to join t...

I realize I'm cannibalizing myself here a fair amount lately. What can I say? I have phases where I want to write a lot, and then phases...

From The Mailbox A little over a year ago you wrote a column about connecting with your strap-on and taking control. I did not read this art...

What Do You Do? A pal of mine asked me a question yesterday, and I’m just going to pop off an answer here. This will not be the most polishe...

After a slight delay: My new Stranger column, in which I discuss the difficulty with dating normal people.

I've been being lazy for a few days, my dear readers, but I will be more in a writing mood soon. Meanwhile, enjoy the newest Stranger co...

Letters To The Mistress I have been interested in BDSM for some time, and would very much like to become a part of the community as a sub...

Another letter, because there’s a bunch of them stacked up in the mailbox…. This came to "Mistress Matisse and Twisted Monk", but ...

I love this fun and informative graphic about men's sperm. I have only one thing to add: pineapple. For men and women, pineapple makes a...

Time for a new podcast! This one's a lulu. Let me preface it by remarking that Monk and I are practitioners of safer safe, and we want t...

From a Letter... ...I find myself 9 years into a triad with myself (male) and my original partner of 17 years and our other partner of 9 yea...

Dear Mistress Matisse, I've been reading your blog for several years now, and I always enjoy your columns. I've been curious ab...

The One-Penis Policy column continues to generate a great deal of comment, both on the Stranger page and on various social-networking sites...

Complete and unedited email I got recently... SUBJECT: my 3 guesses at what your fetish is that you indulge with Milo 1. He is an amput...

Yes Means Yes From the mailbag: This is an edited-down version of the letter, mainly because the original is very long and includes a lot of...

I read an article in the New York Times recently, about scientific studies of the nature of women’s sexual desires. It’s a long piece, but ...

Happy day - it's a new podcast! (Finally, right? I know.) First, Monk does a crazy 30-second riff on what a porn movie would sound like ...

Call For Questions: Monk and I are going to record some more podcasts Thursday. (I know, I know - finally. Hey, we’re busy, people!) So no...

Letters From Readers I found your website on the internet, and actually, I'm not emailing for a session. I'm emailing because I wa...