Mistress Matisse

Here's my newest column in The Stranger. It's a review of a book called "Whip Smart" by Melissa Febos. Before you go read,...

Time for another podcast! In this one, Monk reads an original poem – or at least, we hope it is original – sent to him by a reader. And he r...

Back in Seattle, and busy catching up on my life. Because of all my travel recently, I had to regretfully turn down far too many charming in...

A new Stranger column is up - this one about that very annoying "You're Kinky? You Must Have Been Abused As A Child" myth... ...

If you’re a sex worker who likes her career, and if you talk about it and read other people’s thoughts about it at all, there comes a point ...

I’m excited about what’s happening in my dungeon today: I’m getting the carpet swapped out! No, that's not some bit of sexual slang, I m...

Another podcast, and another riff from Monk about how I’m playing with my nipple. Even though I’m not. Then, letters: the first is from a l...

I love this fun and informative graphic about men's sperm. I have only one thing to add: pineapple. For men and women, pineapple makes a...

I have a new column in The Stranger about a topic I'm frequently asked for help with: handling intense jealousy. *** And a calendar note...

It is Thomas Cromwell’s fault I have a bunch of new books. What? Yes, I know he’s been dead for almost 500 years. Cromwell being the sort ...

Mistress Matisse’s Tips For Happy Polyamory, #17 Thou Shalt Not Oust The Incumbent Partner from his/her living space so you can have a date ...

It's time for a new podcast! Show notes: First of all, I was not playing with my nipple while we were recording, all right? Let the rec...

Today I'm observing the 6th anniversary of this blog. Yep, I've been writing here steadily for six years. That's practically for...

Art Imitates Life Or is the other way around? I can never remember. But I was thinking about it last night, when Monk and I did our second a...

Primary/Secondary, BDSM Scene Interruptions, and Kink Celebrities A fresh new podcast! By popular request, we’ve gone to a slightly longer f...

A new Stranger column about the way to your lover's heart: fear! In the column, I make mention of the fact that I'm appearing at t...

Fire Away! Monk and I are going to record some podcasts tonight. Got lengthy and complex questions about BDSM, polyamory, sex work - or pret...

I had some letters lately about the whole women-only sex party discussion. So I chose this one as an example to use in addressing them. (ed...

Extended Remix On Women-Only Parties Oh, I was bad, I did not post this follow-up material to my column on Friday as I said I would. Here’s...