Mistress Matisse

I have a new column in The Stranger about a topic I'm frequently asked for help with: handling intense jealousy. *** And a calendar note...

It is Thomas Cromwell’s fault I have a bunch of new books. What? Yes, I know he’s been dead for almost 500 years. Cromwell being the sort ...

Mistress Matisse’s Tips For Happy Polyamory, #17 Thou Shalt Not Oust The Incumbent Partner from his/her living space so you can have a date ...

It's time for a new podcast! Show notes: First of all, I was not playing with my nipple while we were recording, all right? Let the rec...

Today I'm observing the 6th anniversary of this blog. Yep, I've been writing here steadily for six years. That's practically for...

Art Imitates Life Or is the other way around? I can never remember. But I was thinking about it last night, when Monk and I did our second a...

Primary/Secondary, BDSM Scene Interruptions, and Kink Celebrities A fresh new podcast! By popular request, we’ve gone to a slightly longer f...

A new Stranger column about the way to your lover's heart: fear! In the column, I make mention of the fact that I'm appearing at t...

Fire Away! Monk and I are going to record some podcasts tonight. Got lengthy and complex questions about BDSM, polyamory, sex work - or pret...

I had some letters lately about the whole women-only sex party discussion. So I chose this one as an example to use in addressing them. (ed...

Extended Remix On Women-Only Parties Oh, I was bad, I did not post this follow-up material to my column on Friday as I said I would. Here’s...

The new Stranger column: What Is A Woman? This is an emotionally loaded question, and as even-handed as I tried to be, I'm still expect...

From The Bookcase I reflected today that the word bookcase might just become an anachronism in my lifetime, mightn’t it? One doesn’t need a ...

You’ve Got Questions, I’ve Got Answers Dear Mistress Matisse: I have listened to a couple of your podcasts and enjoy them, however I was won...

I amused myself by going into the blog archives to see what I was writing about on January 20th in 2005. It turned out to be one of the Sill...

Here's a brand-new podcast! (Even though it’s only Monday. I’m busy writing a column.) In this one, TwistedMonk and I answer a letter f...

Oh, The Media! First, I have a new column over at The Stranger. And yes, it's about the "Alexa Dicarlo" issue. If I had had m...

Time for a new podcast! This one's a lulu. Let me preface it by remarking that Monk and I are practitioners of safer safe, and we want t...

Letters and Snark I get a lot of unsolicited offers to be my slave, and most of them are about as eye-rolling as you'd expect. Anyone wh...

It's Wednesday, and it's a new podcast! Monk starts off with a letter from a busty sex worker asking how to handle phone calls from...