Mistress Matisse

A new Stranger column about the way to your lover's heart: fear! In the column, I make mention of the fact that I'm appearing at t...

Fire Away! Monk and I are going to record some podcasts tonight. Got lengthy and complex questions about BDSM, polyamory, sex work - or pret...

I had some letters lately about the whole women-only sex party discussion. So I chose this one as an example to use in addressing them. (ed...

Extended Remix On Women-Only Parties Oh, I was bad, I did not post this follow-up material to my column on Friday as I said I would. Here’s...

The new Stranger column: What Is A Woman? This is an emotionally loaded question, and as even-handed as I tried to be, I'm still expect...

From The Bookcase I reflected today that the word bookcase might just become an anachronism in my lifetime, mightn’t it? One doesn’t need a ...

You’ve Got Questions, I’ve Got Answers Dear Mistress Matisse: I have listened to a couple of your podcasts and enjoy them, however I was won...

I amused myself by going into the blog archives to see what I was writing about on January 20th in 2005. It turned out to be one of the Sill...

Here's a brand-new podcast! (Even though it’s only Monday. I’m busy writing a column.) In this one, TwistedMonk and I answer a letter f...

Oh, The Media! First, I have a new column over at The Stranger. And yes, it's about the "Alexa Dicarlo" issue. If I had had m...

Time for a new podcast! This one's a lulu. Let me preface it by remarking that Monk and I are practitioners of safer safe, and we want t...

Letters and Snark I get a lot of unsolicited offers to be my slave, and most of them are about as eye-rolling as you'd expect. Anyone wh...

It's Wednesday, and it's a new podcast! Monk starts off with a letter from a busty sex worker asking how to handle phone calls from...

A few more pictures from New Years Eve. One of Puck and I in our party dresses. (Forgive the clumsy crop. My utterly amazing party-assista...

New Stranger Column There's usually a seven-day lag time in between me turning columns into the Stranger and them hitting the street. (E...

A post inspired by a brief conversation with a friend: why you should not write client data down. I have known sex workers who kept records....

Las Vegas Kinky People! My dear Monk is coming to your town very soon - go see him in action. The class is called “Sensual Rope Bondage for...

Random Sexiness I love this video clip. Love. It. I don't know about the rest of you ladies, but I do not intend to have a sexless old ...

It's time for... a fresh podcast! (The page formatting continues to show the headline all wonky. I don't know why, but ignore it. Cl...

Let me tell you a story… Some years back, I used to do a lot of photography. I miss it, but it’s a hobby I just don’t have time for anymore....